We are in a hotel this evening. This will be our first experiment to see how our girls sleep together in a full sized bed. It's what we have at home for them as well. When I tell people our girls share a room and will one day share a bed, sometimes I get a look of disapproval. It is our desire that our girls are close. Early in our marriage, we knew a Catholic family of 8 girls and they all shared beds. Imagine that! This family could have easily had bunk beds but they chose this sleeping arrangement. Although those girls did not exactly like sharing a bed, it was very apparent that they were very close to each other.
It may not have been the sleeping arrangement so much as the family dynamics, but it got my husband and I thinking in this direction. My mom tells me she did not enjoy sharing a room, let alone a bed, with her sister. Yet, in their darkest, most trying days, they held hands together in the dark. They always had each other to lean on and they still do. Plus, my husband works nights. Most nights he is not with me while I sleep. When he is with me, even though we don't talk (or argue) while we sleep, I feel more connected to him when I wake.
So, we'll see how this experiment goes tonight. Now, I'm off to bed as well. We have to rise early to get into Montana for my cousin's wedding. (The Montana state flower is the Bitteroot, it's in bloom this time of year and the picture for this post.)
By the way, if having our girls share a bed causes great division, we are willing to change our mind about it.